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Saturday, 1 June 2013



Hello guys,

Relationships are what really matters in life-our relationship to God,with our spouse,children,extended family members ,friends and others within our communities-yet all too often,we allow these relationships to occupy much lower positions than they deserve on our priority lisr. If we are not careful we can allow something or somebody to drive a wedge between ourselves and people who are most precious to us

To maintain healthy relationships we need ot learn how to kee the strife out of our lives. God made each of us as unique individuals. We have different personalities and temperaments,we approach issues in different ways,so we really shouldn't be amazed when we grate against one another occasionally.

Too often,though,if someone doesn't agree with our opinions ,or see eye to eye with us on some matter,we get bent out of shape and allow strife to foment. I have also discovered that just because somebody is not exactly like me, doesn't do things the way I do them,that doesn't necessarily mean that I am right and they are wrong. We are just different and our differences can cause friction.

It takes maturity to get along with somebody who is different than you are. it takes patience not to start a dispute over minor issues or become easily offended. if we are going to keep the strife out of our lives then we must learn how to give people benefit of doubt.

We will also need to overlook some things,every person has faults,and weaknesses,we shouldn't expect the people with whom we are in a relationship to be perfect. No matter how great a person is,he or she may be,no matter how much you love him or her,if you are around that person long enough,you will have an opportunity to be offended. There is no such thing as a perfect spouse,a perfect boss or a perfect pastor.

If we are putting unrealistic expectations on people,expecting then to be perfect,that is not fair to them,and it will be a source of frustration for us. We are always going to be disappointed

Some people live with the attitude of
"I love you as long as you don't hurt me,or as long as you never make a mistake"
"I will be your friend as long as you treat me right"
"As long as you do things my way,then I will accept you,and I will be happy"

But this is extremely unfair and places too much pressure on that other person.

Quit demanding perfection out of your spouse ,your children or other people with whom you are in a relationship and learn to show mercy

Love Always


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